Journey So Far

  • AKA: How We Got To Whereever We’re Going

This is a fairly comprehensive timeline – mostly because it’s been bugging me (Tui) for a while to remember when we did what. Although I usually have a fantastic memory for significant (and not so significant) dates, I am already struggling to remember some of the timeframes for this process so I thought I’d best write it down before I forget any more! 🙂

The Beginning:

  • 16 April 2001 – two girls meet online
  • 1 July 2001 – Officially our original anniversary, also known as the day when Tui finally decided to stop being an idiot and asked Keeshay out. Finally. 😉

The next part of the timeline isn’t so easy to figure out; both of us knew right from the start that we wanted to have a family together. Although there was no way we were ready for the first few years we were together, there were many many many conversations and dreams about *someday*.

  • Sometime in 2005 – after hours and hours of thinking, talking and debating; we decide that we will ask a close friend of ours to be our donor. Actually there wasn’t too much debate, he really was the first and only person to make sense. At this point we knew we wouldn’t be ttc for at least 12-18 months but knew that if he said no, we would need time to come up with a backup plan.
  • Throughout 2006 – our friend thought. And we waited. Occasionally we’d talk to him about it but it didn’t seem like he was getting any closer to making a decision and we didn’t want him to bolt if we put too much pressure on. We also discussed other options, but really we never came up with one. We honestly could not think of another person that we would both want (and be comfortable with) as a known donor. And although we wanted our known donor to be known but not responsible for the raising of any children, we couldn’t bring ourselves to put our names on the waiting list for a anonymous donor.
  • February 2007 – we finally get a yes from our friend (hereafter known as BabyDaddy or BD) and it’s full steam ahead.
  • March 2007 – we make an initial appointment with the only local fertility clinic to meet with the Dr there.
  • April 2007 – First appointment with the Dr at the clinic. He talked with us a bit about what we want, and recommended a plan of starting with 2-4 IUIs, and if we were unsuccessful then we could opt to begin using fertility drugs.

K has her first TTC related blood tests – standard general health and std screens.

  • May 2007 – We met for the first time with the clinic counsellor for the first of our two mandatory appointments.

BD has his counselling appointment, blood tests and makes his ‘donations’.

  • August 2007 – After a month long trip around the world, we settle back into life and everything TTC related begins to speed up.
  • September 2007 – HSG scan with no problems
  • October 2007 – 2nd mandatory counselling appointment and our original planned start date, but as BD was still being quarantined we decided to hold off til November. However, as the dates didn’t work our quite right for November and the clinic doesn’t open for inseminations in December, it turned out that we couldn’t start until…

The Fun Part:

  • 21 January 2008 – IUI #1
  • 3 February 2008 – BFN #1
  • 16 February 2008 – IUI #2
  • 1 March 2008 – BFN #2
  • March-April 2008 – self imposed break
  • 10 May 2008 – IUI #3
  • 11 May 2008 – IUI #3.5 (two IUI’s this month)
  • 25 May 2008 – BFN #3
  • 12 June 2008 – IUI#4
  • 26 June 2008 – BFN #4
  • 8 July 2008– IUI #5
  • 25 July 2008 – BFN #5
  • 26 July 2008 – Review with Dr at clinic. Discussed using clomid, gonal-f and trigger shots if necessary, and possibility of IVF in a few cycles time.
  • August – September 2008 – Self imposed break
  • 2 October 2008 – IUI #6 – using clomid CD2-6
  • 16 October 2008  – BFN #6
  • 31 October 2008 – IUI #7 – using clomid CD 3-7
  • 14 November 2008 – BFN #7
  • 28 November 2008 – IUI #8 – using clomid CD 3-7
  • 12 December 2008 – BFN #8
  • 16 December 2008 – Review # 2 with clinic Dr. Discussed possibility of IVF, and that we may qualify for funding after 12 failed IUIs. We decide to continue for another 4 IUIs with full monitoring and clomid.
  • December 2008 – February 2009 After consulting with Mr Chinese Medicine Man, we are having a break from ttc while using ‘erbs and acupuncture to rebalance K’s body and regain our sanity. Working on destressing our lives and learning more relaxation techniques.
  • February 20 2009 – IUI #9 using clomid CD 3-7
  • March 6 2009 – BFN #9
  • March – June – Breaking again, same reasons as above but also to give a little bit more of ourselves to our ‘normal’ lives.
  • June 13 2009 – IUI #10
  • June 27 2009 – BFN #10
  • July 11 2009 – IUI # 11
  • July 15 2009 – BFN #11
  • August 8 2009 – IUI # 12
  • August 22 2009 – BFN #12
  • The Considerably More Expensive and Really Not Fun Part:

  • 1 September 2009 – IVF consult with Dr. First mention of possible endometriosis, and confirmation of IVF cycle using Microdose Flare Protocol. Also getting acupuncture treatment from Mrs CMM.
  • 3 October 2009 – Egg retrieval – 12 eggs collected
  • 6 October 2009 – Failed 3 day transfer – 5 embryos cultured on
  • 8 October 2009 – Successful 5 day transfer of 2 blastocysts, none of the others are freezable
  • 17 October 2009 – BFN #13
  • 24 October 2009 – Post IVF consult with Dr. He definitely believes K has endometriosis which is distorting the cervix and causing the difficult IUIs/transfer. Sent back to GP to get referral letter to see Dr at his private clinic to discuss surgery (referral needed for insurance coverage, as backwards as it sounds).
  • November 2009 we wrote a big ol’ letter of complaint about all the things, large and small, that they have done wrong by us over the past couple of years. We received a great response from the clinic director which resulted in them changing some of their admin processes.

  • 20 January 2010 – Private consult with Dr re: possible endometriosis and make plan for K to have laproscopic surgery in April.
  • 6 April 2010 – K has laproscopic surgery, turns out she had stage 4 endometriosis and the surgery included the removal of cysts, fibroids, resection of some major adhesions/lesions and cervix dilation.
  • June 2010 – Begin drugs for IVF round #2 using Microdoes Flare Protocol and acupuncture treatment.
  • 19 July 2010 – Egg retrieval – 11 eggs collected
  • 24 July 2010 – 5 day transfer of 1 blastocyst, none of the others are freezable
  • 1 August 2010 – poas at home – BFN
  • 2 August 2010 – beta at clinic – 31
  • 6 August 2010 – second beta – 44, not good news, told probably chemical or early loss
  • 10 August 2010 – third beta – 155, clinic concerned could be ectopic
  • 16 August 2010 – fourth beta – 2103..hang on a second..
  • 18 August 2010 – first scan – pregnancy sac seen,dated a week behind.. not sure if good or bad news
  • 23 August 2010 – fifth beta – 8624……..
  • 24 August 2010 – second scan – THERE IS A HEARTBEAT! Tracking a week behind ivf dates.
  • 30 August 2010 – sixth and final beta – 26162 – success!
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    One Response to Journey So Far

    1. Claire says:

      Just wanted to say hi. it’s been quite a journey for you. Wr started in 2007 too and got BFP Feb 2010. Congrats on your little one:)

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