2010 Phase 1 Complete

First off, I cannot believe that it is April already, back in October when we were talking about taking a break April just seems like such a long way off. But it’s here, and the op has been and gone (okay, only yesterday but still). It was a success, time will of course tell just what kind of success, but for now we can only be positive.

It turns out that K had some really bad endometriosis going on there, the details are a little fuzzy because she was still dazed when the Dr came round this morning. He didn’t come round yesterday after the op because K was really sick and way out of it still so wouldn’t have taken anything in anyway. I tried to get there early for his rounds this morning but just missed him. So I hung around tonight in case he came back but of course he turned up 5 minutes after I left.

But anyway, he said that there was a lot of endo and lesions/adhesions/whatever to get rid of, particularly around her cervix and left ovary but mostly a big mass between her rectum and vagina which was the most problematic I think. Luckily he was able to get rid of all of this without any problems – her number one fear for this op was ending up with a colostomy bag (even if only temporarily) after one of her students had the same op that was fucked up big time at the public hospital a couple of years ago.  One more reason we were happy to pay the big bucks and go private! He has diagnosed it as stage four, which I think is the most severe stage.

As well as that, he had a look in her uterus. It is enlarged and also has some fibroids. He said he didn’t remove the fibroids because there is a high risk of bleeding which could quite possibly result in a hysterectomy. He also said the position of them shouldn’t cause any problems conceiving – I have a few questions about this so I’m aiming to be back at the hospital bright and early at 7am tomorrow to catch his rounds.

He also told K that he had some problems doing the cervix dilation, but that he got it done eventually.

All in all, K is doing well tonight. She had a rough first 24 hours and was throwing up a lot but is now eating and moving around and a lot more like herself. All going well, she should be home tomorrow and ready for some good old fashioned pampering! But not too much because she has to keep moving as well hehe.

If I let myself think about it, I am still incredibly pissed off that it got to this point without being diagnosed, even more so after finding out it was stage four. But that can’t be changed so we’re trying not to dwell on that. On the other hand, I am very very glad that there was a lot in there that had to be removed. I know it was hard for K to decide to have this op, she has been trying so hard to follow Mr and Mrs CMM and avoid too many western drugs etc and Mr CMM was really anti this op. But on top of that, she knew something was wrong and that we couldn’t do another ivf without doing the surgery. If they hadn’t found any evidence of endo or anything else, I think she would have felt really bad about having all this medical intervention. But as it turned out it really did need to happen – the Dr said regardless of our fertility issues it was so bad it would have needed surgery very soon anyway.We *knew* that there was something wrong, but seriously I was really worried that this would all be for nothing. She doesn’t like drugs and hospitals at the best of times so heaven help us if she went through all this for nothing lol

On the other hand, it puts into a sharp light just how much K has been through physically over the past 2 1/2 years. It’s no wonder the insems were so painful, and the ivf transfer so traumatic. She is a brave, brave lady and I’m so proud of her for everything she’s been through and done for us. And it’s no wonder she hasn’t gotten pregnant so far – keeping on trying while all this was going on just seems like we were flogging a dead horse.

So now we wait again. We go back to see him at the Clinic in about 4-6 weeks and from there we will plan the next ivf. We have to get through this recovery phase first of course, but the way this year is going we’ll be there before we know it.


About Tui

30-something kiwi-lesbian-stay at home-Mama, raising our toddler son with my wife, two cats and one dog.
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10 Responses to 2010 Phase 1 Complete

  1. A. says:

    She is so brave!! I’m so glad that everything went well. Heal well, K!

  2. Meredith says:

    Wow- I’m so glad she was able to finally get the treatment and care she needed. :::healing thoughts her way:::

  3. strawberry says:

    Yeah, it’s absurd that this wasn’t caught and taken care of until now. I hope this surgery helped to clear things up and that K feels better soon.

  4. wow, sounds like a rough surgery and recovery. extra love to k!

    i cant believe your break is over already either, that time flew by! looking forward to following along with your ttc journey again!

  5. tbean says:

    Having been under anesthesia yesterday, I can imagine how awful the surgery was. I’m glad it is over and that it was such a success, in terms of finding a major problem, and hopefully solving it. Heal well.

  6. poppycat says:

    I am so, so happy K is recovering well and had such a successful surgery. She’s been through a lot and been such a trooper. Send her my best and tell her we are all so happy you have closed this chapter and are opening a new and better one.


  7. Stacey says:

    sending healing love….
    and CAN NOT WAIT til you get on the TTC train again! This is your year girls!!!

  8. mingomama says:

    Wow. Sending lots and lots of healing thoughts to K, I am glad she is on the road to recovery!

  9. Wow. Best wishes to K for a quick recovery. I hope she feels better soon. So glad all that endo is gone–woo hoo!

  10. Olive says:

    I somehow missed this post until now – sorry! I’m glad the surgery was a success and you feel like it was worth it. I’m sorry too that it took so long for K to be diagnosed, but, you’re right, it’s best to think about how to move forward. I hope good things are coming with your next IVF!

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