The Art of Being

Tonight is the last night of school holidays. Tomorrow K is officially back to work and we will be getting back into our ‘school term normal’ routine.

The last month in particular has been awesome. While I would have loved to have had more time off with K, what time we have been able to spend together has been really great. And for her part, like I said in the last post, K has actually managed to Relax. With a capital R. And of course, in true K style, that relaxing has included a lot of organizing. So we have had a great holiday, and we are now a lot more organized and ready for the new school year. Yay.

Over the past few weekends we have got A LOT done outside, with nearly all of our gardens now revamped and looking great.. and the best part is it should all be easy care, and mostly edible. Which will save us money in the long run.

Speaking of money, thanks to a policy that only pays 80% and what seems like the country’s most expensive surgeon, we have to pay just over $4000 for the op in April. The insurance company only pays a set amount for the surgeon’s fees, based on an average, which is less than half of what ours charges. We briefly thought about shopping around but he is supposed to be the best in the region. Also, he knows us after 3 years of seeing him at the clinic, we trust him and this isn’t something we want to fuck around with. Them’s the breaks I guess, it was stressful at first but we just have to get on with it and make the best of it. We are lucky that we can do it.

I know as well that the next 6 months are going to fly by. February and March is already booking up, April is the op, end of May/June is our holiday and then when we get back, all going well, we’ll hopefully be starting the next ivf round.

I feel like instead of sitting on the cusp of something, like we have been for the last couple of years, we are actually living. We have plans that involve ttc, sure, but we also have some great and exciting plans that don’t. I am starting studying again in March, we are living healthier and feeling better for it, we are off to Hawaii at the end of May… there is some great stuff there.

We are optimistic about the future, whatever that may hold. If things don’t work out and we never end up with our baby, we will be ok. For the first time I truly believe that. We are strong enough, individually and together, to get through that. But for now we are happy. Happy together, with where we are now and I just wanted to document that here, because I think it’s a very important part of our journey.

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About Tui

30-something kiwi-lesbian-stay at home-Mama, raising our toddler son with my wife, two cats and one dog.
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One Response to The Art of Being

  1. Olive says:

    This is such a wonderful post to read! I’m thrilled for the happy place you’ve found, the plans you’re making and the love you have for each other.

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