It’s now 8DPO and we are halfway through the tww so time for an update. This time round we’ve definitely been more positive which has been interesting. There’s been a few things early on that could be put down to early pregnancy signs which we’ve found ourselves getting excited about (something that hasn’t happened for months). But it’s so hard to find the balance. We want to get excited because, if K is pregnant, it’d be the most exciting thing that’s ever happened to us, but on the flip side we’ve just been disappointed too many times and it’s painful to even think about setting ourselves up for that yet again.
I think this cycle has definitely been more relaxed, obviously the iui was the lead in for that, plus after talking to the nurse about injectables we’re confident that we’ve made the right decision there so for the first time in a long time we’re not consciously second guessing ourselves and talking about what we’ll do differently next time, or whether we should have done it this time.
We’ve also got a lot of other things going on, it’s the end of the school year coming up and Christmas so our calendar is pretty full for the next couple of months. It’s been Guy Fawkes this week which means fireworks being let off around the neighbourhood nearly every night. We were really nervous about this because the dog is still very nervous, jumpy and wussy but for some reason they haven’t bothered her at all – we’re so surprised by that but very happy.
The thing with change is, you have to know what you’re getting yourself into. You have to be voting for a change you believe in, not just jumping ship because the waves are too high. I’m so happy that Obama won, it’s been an historic week and it’s a great step forward in so many different ways and for so many different people.
Here in NZ, we’re also voting today. We’ve had the same prime minister for 9 years and without her, our family would be poorer (we now have interest free student loans) and legally non-existant (civil unions). She also had the guts to stand up to our 3 biggest traditional allies and say ‘you know what, we don’t like what you’re doing, so no, we won’t go to war with you’. They probably didn’t care too much anyway but for us it was a proud moment. On the other hand, we have a party that campaigned the last election partially on the basis of overturning civil unions and sending us to Iraq. There is still a way to go in getting equal rights in NZ, although yes we are far better off than many many others, and there is no way we are going to get any further under a national party government. But it is looking more and more likely that in another 12 hours that’s exactly what we’ll have.
But only because people are voting for the sake of change. If people are voting because they believe in something, so be it, but it pisses me off that National supporters are pointing to Obama as the ideal role model for voting for change. Yes I agree that it’s fantastic that he won, but it’s like they conveniently forget that they are not democrats, in fact they are on opposite sides of the political spectrum, and that Labour’s policies are far more in line with his than theirs could ever be.
It’s been an interesting week with this going on. I’ve had conversations with friends at work that really can’t understand why gay marriage etc is a big deal – even one young friend who is voting for the first time this year and didn’t realize that we can’t marry or that we have only been able to have our relationships legally recognized for 3 years. Then there’s the other colleague that brought in pamphlets labelling, among others, the civil union bill and relationships bill that gave us our rights as ‘anti-family’.
I hope we still win the election, it is still possible with a coalition government, just not that likely.